Is “insinuating” often the best way to give advice?

….tell the speculators what necessary and relevant to things just around the corner and leave reservations for days when they had been proven as a useful fact.

If you encountered someone, who you be acquainted with, in his office suit walking on a busy street not realizing that his pants ripped open and zippers unfastened, do you do something like “insinuating” so that he would aware of the flaw, or acting as if nothing happen.

I would immediately wonder whether I should just move toward and tell him straight in the face, but my mind flooded with discomfiting stuffs. What would be his reaction after I had overtly pointed out the flaw which he had been wearing for hours in the crowd? This is truly testing.

Trying to tell someone openly about things we believe may course him to feel a great deal of depression is easier said than done. I must be in a traumatized state but think how I could do something to prevent him from being humiliated or at least to reduce it so that no face falls.

Watching someone, a neat and organized person as I knew, moving around in such a slack manner is something unusual unless he is under a distressed state. Nobody wants to get the “hands dirty” and involve in other’s personal affair unless it is dealing with a close acquaintance. At this point, do something which ourselves and that person felt comfortable with to give the “warning” is a smooth way but should not be excessively showy, or decked out in an insulting manner.

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At the workplace, I frequently under pressure to present something at the product review meeting without making sure that the technical advisors had acknowledged the details. No engineer wants a fact-based presentation, which mended for, giving insightful information about the product turns into a moment of turmoil to the big screen.

When a minor defective, which failed to, explain an outline of a written procedure led to an unnecessary stoppage in a manufacturing operation, it might present a negative speculation to the whole project. If it was applied to a system which the results would only be achieved after passing a long process over a prolonged period, the holdup was immaterial.

If it is not an alarming catastrophe, it is simply an overview of the product’s quality performance, I would tell the speculators what necessary and relevant to things just around the corner and leave reservations for days when they had been proven as a useful fact.

It had become the habit of some inexperienced people, rushed to spread the news that they had just learned without first studying its accuracy. He may not know the first thing about the issue as much as the person who he wanted to advise. What he always thought of helping somebody out of “trouble” is, in fact, a foolish sentimental. It is also possible that the speculator knows which side his bread is buttered more than anyone else.

Pounding around a superfluous subject made the messager the same as a ridiculous baby; eventually he contributed nothing. Apart from whether these insights or indications are even necessary, a bigger question revolves around the individual’s right to privacy. As bad as it would be, the thoughtlessness work would upset the speculators and provoke an unhappy result.

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On the contrary, surprise the rivals by how much we know about them, could make them feel anxious and twitchy too. Even if, it was an indirect message when constantly delivered in the same pattern, the receiver would in a while understand the correlation. The psychological effect invoked can actually paralyze a person and destroy a life; it is just like frightening someone by “I am watching you!” sort of sentiment.

Even so, people in most cases feel that this is the best form of connections which they can make the most out of their “investment” getting some sorts of information from their supplier, and they are the customers, the decision makers and the key players in the market.

Those who were troubled by the “insinuating” earlier, and felt reluctant to accept the idea initially but accepted it later. It is a pitiful surrender; if we can not lick them, join them. Because the forerunners have been using it extensively across the population, they, too, forced the others to follow the rule.

I can tolerate these unnecessary hints or indications, of which not only pointless but also insincere, as much as I can endure a sociable joke. To lay myself open to such a contemptuous attitude which intending to do harm, I say no to “Insinuating” in any form.

How could a hyper-connected society or logical industrial people in this digital age accepting it? For one reason beyond my comprehension, the forerunners are worrying about others might change the rule, a strategy which they have been using for ages, and play it differently. If others have successfully lured the investors in the way that they cannot have a handle on, they might be obsolete from the market later.

 We Know nothing of what will happen in future, but by the analogy of experience. – Abraham Lincoln.

Wai Ping Lee/Feb 2011